When it comes to paying the bill on a first date, how should it be done? Should he pay it? Should she? Or should they split it?
Opinions vary regarding this matter.
Some believe that if a man does not pay the bill on the second or third date that man might be selfish. While it’s admirable that he knows how to manage his money, he might not be the perfect provider.
There are women who also believe that they should help pay for their share in the bill, although they appreciate how men insist on paying. It’s only right for her to offer to pay. If he declines, she should accept it graciously.
Unfortunately, more women now feel as though men take this action for granted. They no longer feel apologetic or embarrassed about being unable to shoulder the bill. Although career women are now more than able to pay even for the full bill, it still seems nice for men to show their chivalrous side.
Some women also factor in the guy’s willingness to pay as his degree of liking her. If the guy does get his wallet out, then it’s possible that he likes her enough and that there will be a second date.
For others, men who are in long-term relationships have always paid on their first date and even on their first dinner. It shows a lot of good things about the guy’s characteristics. It also shows that the guy is considerate and knows how to take good care of a lady.
There are men who are just good at talking, but not at actually treating their lady. This is not to say that women are gold diggers who expect to get free dinners every time. They also do their share by organizing the date and even paying for some. But men who are generous right from the get-go are likely to be generous throughout the entire relationship.
From the point of view of men, they said that most men would offer to pay the bill if he likes how the date went and if he wants to impress his date. But if he feels that everything would end on the first date, or sees the date as so-so, he might want to split the bill.
There are men who want to avoid the possibility of insulting the woman by saying that he’d pay for everything. She might want to pay too, especially if she doesn’t want the burden of having a stranger pay for her share.
Old-fashioned guys would always pay, without exception. However, some men might feel like the lady should also offer to pay, only to be declined by the man.
When the date springs from an online meeting, it might be safer to split the bill on the first two dates. However, a man who wants more dates may want to pay for the third dates and for the ones that will follow.